Over the past several years, I have experienced the passing of several family members. That is to be expected, I suppose, as one grows older.

All of the elderly people involved were "Old-Time Mainers" and like so many of the breed they were stubborn, independent and used to making do with a combination of hard work and resourcefulness.

In each instance, advanced age and illness both played a prominent role. Inpatient and outpatient treatment was required as well as nursing care either in a facility or by home visitation services. Fortunately Medicare, Basic and Supplemental, covered nearly all expenses since no one involved had much in the way of financial resources.

But there are riches and wealth far from the material plane.

What was also provided was extensive loving care by family members and friends. There was never a question of someone facing these trials on their own. These elderly folks had provided for others for most of their lives and leave a legacy of capable, independent children, grandchildren, nieces and nephews who will carry on a tradition of family strength and unity.

I wish that I could say that every passing is marked by grace and dignity. Unfortunately, a failing body so often traps the spirit until it is freed to soar as it is meant to do from the very beginning.

I am filled with admiration and respect for those who have given so much to make the transition of these loved ones an easier time.

To paraphrase a thought that I have heard in many variations, "It is not what you take with you when you leave this life that are the most important things; it is what you leave behind".

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