
A Little Civility, Please
Posted by Peter Cutler
When putting together two of my recent blog entries I was hopeful that they might result in opening a dialog with people reading them.
I admit that the pieces were written with the idea in mind of encouraging participation. They contained opinions that evidently were disturbing to at least two respondents, judging from the vituperative nature of some of the postings I received from them.
My intent was to encourage a meaningful, civil exchange of ideas and/or opinions from my readers and in that effort I appear to have failed miserably, judging from the overwhelming pejoratives and invective that characterized some responses.
I will always welcome a contribution that features reasons for one’s position on issues and facts to bolster it, as well as remarks from someone who disagrees with me and will take the time to explain to me (without personal accusations, vilification or fanciful distortion of what I have written) the basis for their disagreement.
Name-calling, labeling, belittlement and attempts to twist my words to fit another’s personal beliefs bore me and I will simply erase the posting from the “Comments” section of the blog.
One contributor complained that the subject material I was writing about would not appeal to anyone and demanded that his personal issues be addressed. That is not going to happen. I request that responders keep their comments germane to the subject of the particular piece, although something that piques my interest could be the subject of a following blog.
I am new at this blog business and it seems that my intent to use my writing to entertain and stimulate thought and conversation has so far not yielded the results that I desired. It is my challenge to do a effective job and I will work toward that goal in future articles.
However, I am who I am. Perceive me as you will, but do not expect space on my blog unless you are willing to offer civil and intelligent comments.
Posted by Peter Cutler
at 10:52 AM
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Peter
Don't be offended and do not be taken in by it all. The three notes above mine were all written by the same person and I suspect he also wrote most (or all) of the childish responses that you received on your previous blogs.
Believe me, it is just one sick miserable person that has no better life than to sit around and cowardly insult you. It is evidently some new disease where certain individuals spend an inordinate amount of time on lots of blog sites and just spew insults and have bizarre reactions to bloggers comments.
Your own advice was best. Delete the comments that are not professionally written and both you (blogger) and us (readers) can move on.
Wish you the best.
Posted by
June 18, 2008 11:06 PM
Good Evening Again,
I really don't believe that Mr. Kany or Mr. Hurd really exist. Some mentally unstable individual is sending comments to the blogs and just uses other people's email and names. I would just remove his posts and not dialogue too much with him because it is one of those creepy emotional instabilities where the sick person gets his jollies by getting you to play with him. They only go away when you ignore them.
Posted by
June 19, 2008 10:55 PM
Again, thank you for your perceptive analysis and excellent advice, which I will follow.
I hope that at some point I will be able to generate general comments that will help the blog to be more interactive and informative.
Posted by Peter Cutler
June 20, 2008 08:07 PM
Mr. Cutler,
I exist. Please feel free to send me an email or give me a phone call.
Good luck with the conversation!
Dan Kany
Posted by
Daniel KanyJune 21, 2008 04:27 PM
I assure you Dan Kany does exist.
Posted by Matt L
June 22, 2008 02:46 PM
For the record, I do not question Mr. Kany's existence.
Posted by Peter Cutler
June 23, 2008 09:12 AM
As much as you dislike it, it is the comments that raise the ire of others that often build a blogs popularity. Maybe you need to grow a thicker skin, after all you admit, "I am new at this blog business". If you are going to delete comments that don't conform to your ideals, it's not really an open forum is it?
Posted by Ben Pearce
June 26, 2008 05:55 PM
I don't think that Mr. Cutler is concerned with anyone that disagrees with him. It is just the personal comments that people were making because he felt different than they did. The reality is that most of the comments are written by the same person just using other peoples names and email addresses.
Posted by
June 27, 2008 09:54 PM
Mr. Pearce,
Thank you for the thoughtful comment.
It is not my goal to have a blog designed to be the kind of "open forum" where people can hurl personal insults at one another, rather than engaging in thoughtful, productive dialog. Disagreement is encouraged as long as it is conducted in a polite, civil fashion following the generally accepted rules of formal debate.
Perhaps these requirements will limit the popularity of this blog. On the other hand, some of the people who have written comments have some good points to make if they would be willing to separate out the attack language. Should someone decide to write in and disagree with what you have said, using personal attacks and accusations, I would remove these comments also.
Is there a fine line involved? Yes. But there is also a challange, for those willing to accept it.
Posted by Peter Cutler
June 28, 2008 11:21 AM
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